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Too damned lazy



 Well, hell, I'm too damned lazy to do the library/journal thang, so let's see about 'blogging'. Right now I'm kinda trapped at my parents' place (a fate near worse than death for a wandering 'free spirit'), trying (with my sisters) to figure what we can do to help my mom & dad. My mom is well on the way towards full-on Alzheimer's, with a short term memory retention of seconds, with my dad following. His memory is considerably better, but his emotional state far worse.  My mom is mostly cheerful, realizing what's happening and kinda 'going with the flow', whereas dad's getting petulant and mulish. 

 The problem we have here is that my mom has dad as her primary care giver (blind leading the blind or wut?) and it just won't work for long. Pretty soon they'll both have to move to a facility that provides more extensive care.. but dad won't budge. Not only that, but he's also lost his drivers license and been hiding the fact from everyone. So, for the past 4-5 months he's been driving without a license, which is a BIG no-no. Even when found out he refuses to stop driving. Personally, I think the best thing to happen would be for the cops to nail him for driving without a license. Sure, traumatic and the fine would suck, but that's about the only thing that would stop him. Yeah, I could disable the car, but that would only work til he had it towed to get repaired and then it's back to square 1.

 What to do.. what to do. Doesn't help that the pain med I'm on leaves me incredibly fatigued and makes it hard to be around people and 'drama'. Oh.. to be out camped in the hills with my dog and some peace 'n quiet. That's one of the benefits of living in BC, lot's of crown land to camp on for free! Damn, I wonder how the poors live! ..wait a sec..  ..Willy.



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Your Dad sounds extremely stubborn other than taking off the wheels I don't think there's much you can do to stop him.

And calling the cops yeah that's not really a wise decision..

Have you discussed all this with him?

Also I'm sorry to hear about your Parents ailing. I know only to well what it's like to watch them suffer and feel helpless in the process.

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 Nope, I wouldn't call the cops (tho my sister might and she works for them), but I can see him getting stopped for something like, I dunno, speeding or not signalling when lane changing and it would be game over. We've talked to him about this but it's fruitless. 1 accident (regardless of fault) and they lose their house, savings.. everything. He doesn't care enough and, here's the thing, he'll drag my mother down with him. ..Willy.

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AARRRRRRGH! I hate typos n stuff. Lousy med I'm on really does a number. Looking at my 1st entry I've written 'library/journal' where I meant to put 'diary/journal'.

 Anyway, there might be a bit of progress with my dad. My sister got back today and had a good sit-down with him (after his temper tantrum). He is, reluctantly, making all the right noises but only time will tell. In the meantime she'll getting the ball rolling by contacting social workers n such. In the interim I'll be here to do general Toby-boy stuff. ..Willy.

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