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  2. Hi there, You are not alone in feeling like that. I have been there myself. IMO the best thing you can do is to talk about what is making you feel the way you are feeling. And we are here to listen.
  3. What makes you think people will be better off if you didn't exist? I to used to think that. I've seen how dark that's tunnel can get. You need to believe that things can/ will change. Bad things happen to great people every single day,you can not change that. However what you can do is open your eyes a little wider there is so much more to see. There is light at the end of the tunnel trust me..
  4. Hey, Im here I'm listening to you love. Talk to me.*hugs*
  5. Just really down. You know when you're young you go through some depressed phase, making posts, getting some sort of consolation because things aren't really all that bad, even though they still suck a little. Then you get older, and posting anything seems futile, because there is no consolation. The problems get more complicated and too difficult to solve, and costly to do so. I feel alone, wishing I never existed really. I wish I had never been born. The point of this post is to say, I really hope that after death there is peace, just nothingness. Just a dark blackness, non-existence. Not to say I intend to end things, I unfortunately have religious beliefs, and not to mention the selfishness of it. Although I know some would be better off. I want to be booked in somewhere and stare at a wall until I die. I want my existence to be simple. I hate feeling this way. And here I get to the point, do I post this or erase it all and go to bed? I feel so alone, and I want to feel okay.
  6. I hope your joking. You can't treat animals like that. That's just wrong imo.
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  8. I think I'd grab her by the back of the neck and throw her into a wall if she bit me. My dad was a veterinarian and he had to deal with strange animals every day and he always let them know who the boss was. He didn't work on dogs and cats though, mainly horses and they can really hurt you, kill you if they want. He didn't have a problem beating the hell out of them and it seemed to work. Of course I'm not sure you want your cat to fear you. Animals feared him.
  9. Manthy your cat sounds like a bitch. Is she a female? Females are known to be queens who tend to rule the home. I to had a female cat,she never hurt me like yours did,if she had I would have set her straight. When she attacks you,you are enabling her behaviour by rewarding her with treats. You need to change the rules. She can't go on attacking you like this,she may be young but that's no excuse. The next time she attacks you stop her treats. Stop feeding her. Let her know you are the Queen of the home not her/him. Don't let her sleep in your room either.
  10. So, My cat hurts me. We got her as a 2 month old kitten (she's 6 months now), the first week she was lovely, calm, exploring. The next week, probably because she became familiar with my boyfriend and me, and our apartment, she began attacking me (not him as much). Mainly biting ankles, feet, hands, arms. We got her lots of toy mice, and stuffed toys, a scratching post. She goes at them viciously, at least, but she directs that at me too. When she started attacking me, I decided to get one of her toys, and just play with her until she got too tired or bored. This would be during the night too, since she hurt us both while we slept. Twice she went for my neck while I was asleep. Anyway, this has helped somewhat, playing with her when she gets like that, but she still doesn't stop biting at my legs and ankles when I just walk by her. She is also very sweet at times, before she eats each time (free feeds), she seeks love and attention from me, she kisses me in the mornings and lies next to me before she gets food. Once in a blue moon, she'll have a really good day where she doesn't hurt me at all, she's loving all day, or just lies somewhere in another room and I hardly see her most of the day. On the days that she's 'good' I treat her tremendously, I'm also training her to come to me when I call her with these treats. I do treat her every day (picking a time when she's been calm for an hour or 2). Why I'm posting this, is that, recently the attacks have become slightly more aggressive when she does decide to. In that, she's started attacking me from behind when I'm sitting on the bed, going for the back of my head (which she digs her nails into and bites) - and yes, it hurts like hell. So, I want to know if anyone has advice on redirecting this behaviour elsewhere, how to do that and if I can 'calm' her down in any way and also how to do that? I realise she is a cat, that this is instinctual behaviour for her, learning how to hunt and whatnot, so I have no intention of 'removing' it. I've just had many cats from young and my boyfriend has too, and we've never seen such behaviour before. I know she likes me to some degree, she always picks me to sleep near, and I'm the one to feed her, clean her litter box, play with her. The only reason for the aggression that I can think of, other than learning to hunt, is that there are days that I'm at school, or work (Mo-Th), and she's upset that I've been away (but my boyfriend is at home when I'm not). We never leave her alone for more that 3 or 4 hours, and usually it's only an hour or 2 when we go grocery shopping or whatnot. I'm at home the entire weekend, and she's nicer to me on these days. I would still like to know if I can redirect her frustrations though. She's also an 'only' cat, so I guess a friend would help, but we can't afford 2. My boyfriend suggested that she sees me as a playmate, and him as "just some roommate she has to live with."
  11. I have to admit the animals that weren't human seemed a little smarter.
  12. I am thankful for music, poetry and peace... The maker made these perfect for humans
  13. Thank you
  14. Well, Priscella, that's good news. Just be careful about moving in together. It's a quasi-marriage and often the pair just splits up. It's different when you are married and just living together. All of that said, more men are opting out of marriage because they, like your guy, got badly burned. Everything is tilted toward the woman in the family courts. There is no concept of equality there. Women can behave badly and still end up with the house, the car and the kids--and half the guy's income. So I am no longer blaming men who shy away from marriage. Women have the power to fix this. There are, however, two areas that the self-described feminists won't touch: (1) making themselves eligible for the military draft, so they are on an equal footing with men, and (2) fighting for equality in the marriage laws and family court system. Personally, I wish all the unmarried men would declare a five year moratorium on getting married--to give women the time and opportunity to fix the unjust laws and court system. If it wasn't fixed in five years, do another moratorium for 10 years. My guess is that before 15 years went by, women would get the message and get serious about equality, instead of just wanting it for themselves.
  15. Been a while since I was in law school, but here's what I recommend: The shares can be put in trust and given to the kids when they are the age of majority, i.e., 18 in Canada. The parents cannot stop something devolving to their adult children.
  16. Crikey it sounds like some kind of crater. Not good. Has anything been done about it yet?
  17. Have you messed up with a girl is that what your talking about? Where does bullying come into it. If you want I can pm you.
  18. Success at last!

    Finally got my dad a place at an old folks home close to where my mom is. It was a hell of a slog though. He DID NOT want to go, but there really wasn't any choice since he'd been getting l'ost' and had to be brought back home by the cops at least once. The only reason he could achieve even a semblance of normalcy was because he was familiar with his surroundings. Change that and he was/is near helpless. His memory is basically shot and he's starting to regress to a more childlike state, accompanied by a LOT of crying. Damn, I'd only seen him cry twice before, and that was at the funerals of his dad and brother. During the past couple of months I've lost count of how many times he's broken down. I think what really got him upset, prior to my mother having her breakdown and subsequent hospitalization, was having his drivers license revoked. He still drove (illegally) until I disabled the car.. amazing what a little crazy glue will accomplish when applied to the brake/tranny interlock switch.. I'm kinda sneaky. In reality, my dad should be where my mom is but, due to how the system works, he'd have to either have a complete breakdown like my mom had or have a 'professional' declare him unfit to be anywhere else. That's where the assisted living complex we got him into comes in. It's costing abt $3000/month but, when he deteriorates to a point where they refuse to have him there any longer, he'd be automatically placed into a subsidized full care establishment like where my mom is. I don't think it will be long, given his age and how quickly he's sliding down the slope into full-on dementia, and we'll be able to get the house fixed up and sold in the meantime. For now, I get to hop into my rig and motor on down to the Okanagan for a few months of carefree living before having to come back and house sit for the rest of the winter. I'll clean up the place, do some repairs, and get rid of all the contents. Hopefully we'll be able to sell it by the springtime and invest the funds. The interest alone should take care of the ol' folks home expenses for both of my parents when added to their savings. My sister will also be able to breathe a sigh of relief since she's the one who had to set everything up and take time off of work (power of attorney can be a ditch sometimes). Regardless, it'll be nice to just blow this burger stand for a few months and have some fun. ..Willy.
  19. So I'm in a bit of a conundrum here, and I'm hoping that someone here can shed some light... A grandfather has bought some shares in my company, and now wishes to transfer those shares to his grandkids in trust. The kids' parents do NOT want the kids to have the shares in any way shape or form. So what I want to know is: can the grandfather still transfer the share ownership to the kids in trust without the parent's permission?
  20. I don't know that I have any advice at the moment.... But know this. I am 'listening'
  21. hey guys.. been awhile since i came around. never thought i needed the help... I've gone incognito for a bit due to the nature of overwhelming forces of influential bs. i mean influence by " too much to handle" Got me thinking.. even though i was doing just fine before all the " upgrades " I've experienced, it had suited me pretty well with a mediocre lifestyle.. with myself grounded and in control in the least. but with the big career change and relocation had me bit excited.. perhaps too excited. Now.. after the big ol wreck ( never been too good at handling change ) im wound up back to this person wondering what did i do? i know i screwed it up.. i had something good.. but i just defaulted myself and im back where i started. the only way i can identify is the story of Icarus who flew too close to the sun is in dire comparison. long story short i got overbearing and overconfident..then came the womanizing and bullying .. a beast that ignored the man i am.. only turned into whats left of me. im at loss. secluded into this introverted sorry ass . Reality is im more than doing fine..nobody died.. i didnt end up on the street. i have a living. .. im just mental, i need an outlet. no more than the next idiot who screws up. i just need human contact. i tried to in the real world.. but it truely feels like im just exposing my weaknesses and about to have it used against me. i've searched everywhere on what im dealing with.. is it my ego? jeez. cant get on with myself high or low. it would be nice to hear the wisdom of my fellow helpers once again... godspeed.
  22. You know.... I thought about that a year or so ago. Have I been so ungrateful when I have avoided the giant hole? .....And then I decided to keep count. Sometimes, when I pull out onto the road, I'll come to a stop and wait.... Abandoned. Looking ahead for distant headlights. None. Moving slow, moving fast' slowing as I get closer....closer and then perfectly timed traffic shows up to keep me in place. The hole is unusual because it's paved... Odd, I know. The ground under the pavement sank, but the sunken area is so big the pavement actually melded with it instead of breaking. It's crazy. It's been brought to the attention of the council... Something will happen one day...
  23. Lol, are you sure its every single time and youre not just noticing when it doesnt happen? Maybe get the council on it to fix it
  24. Is it me, coincidence, or something else? Okay, this may be a bit long but there's a reason for it - semantics and nuances are a factor that are key to the conclusion. The road I live on used to be gravel. A time came when it was paved. Since then, it has never been maintained and has fallen into decline with the passing of nearly 2 decades. It's not umberable, though, there are some spots which are completely unbearable. Through sheer incidence some length of the road was repaved by a specific branch of our local government. The other branch of our government responsible for determining the remainder remains hidden under the bed like a frightened child. In other words, the worst parts of the road still remain, specifically, in one one of the travel lanes (outbound). Here is a case where people of the subdivision have formed a driving habit to avoid the rough spots by going into the otherlane when possible. Sometimes inbound traffic will not allow you the luxury of avoidance and you are forced to drive over this mentioned rough spot. Here is where I feel that I am an exception to this rule - I HIT IT EVERYTIME. And I'm beginning to take it personally. Here's how it works.... I live in the largest state in the U.S which is also the least populated. There are roughly 700,000 people in my state. There are about four hot spots where a majority of the population is divided into not to mention native land reserves and general rual areas that are spread through out the state which all involve road systems. So, basically, the entire population isn't in my lap even though I DO live in a hot spot called "The Valley." The Valley is a bourough that is about 500 miles X 300 miles -a that's a lot of space for a population of 50,000 or more. Not all of these people live at my back door.... Let's talk about activity and habits of people as regulated by a 24 hour day..... Some people are night people, most are not. 9 to 5 is typical and a majority of people are in bed at night. Due to the nature of my own problems, I am an "anytime" person. I could be up day or night. Usually, I lean on the night side to avoid the push of busy people during the day- so, I go out at night quite often. It could be midnight or any given wee-morning hours. ....BUT.... It seems quite clear, when I go, I'm still hitting that rough spot in the road. Why? ....Why... I've stopped asking why and started asking HOW.... How is this happening? How is this even freaking possible - of the 480 minutes of the night, I can't lose! My fury swells - "What in the hell are you doing here right NOW?!" So...before you think me completely insane- just one more thing.... I'm not unreasonable. People live in my neighborhood where there were once trees... I get it - I do but, there is a space just for me on this road AND IT ISN'T ON THAT GIANT HOLE IN THE ROAD AT ANY GIVEN MOMENT OF THE NIGHT! .....the main stretch of road that leads in and out of the subdivision is over a mile long and perfectly straight. That giant hole in the ground is a mere blip when it comes to traveling the distance of the road. I don't have a problem with people who "coincidently" are up and about at the same time as me, moving about on the road - truly, good to see ya... ....but why are you showing up at such moment as to defy ALL probabilities...EVERY TIME. PERIOD. There is no exception. I want to know why I would lose my entire financial world betting in Las Vegas, yet can't lose when it comes to avoiding the monster on my road? !!!!!!!!!!!!!!WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ....Thanks for letting me rant people.
  25. Can't believe, I wrote this last year... well anyway a little update. We have been together for almost two years now. Everything is wonderful between us, we are moving in together next May. He is a great man! I've never had anyone treat me so good. He is also a wonderful father to his child. Last year after learning about why he got divorced changed a lot of things. Sometimes you have to realize that it's the men who get left and hurt. It's not always the guys fault.
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