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  2. Hi there. I know this site is all but dead, but I appreciate the effort and sentiment that went into it. I suppose all the action's at http://help-qa.com/
  3. Holyburd, we have a new site now, which actually has some people on it. What I recommend is reposting this there. https://help-qa.com/
  4. I have been dating this woman for a little over a year now, and it started like the perfect match. She had never had a relationship before, and was still very inexperienced in many things in life. She was a big-time adventurer, while I was a bit of a homebody; one of those complimenting contrasts that forced one another into pushing our normal boundaries. Sexually, she was skiddish and unsure, even so far as never once "diddling her skittle" even once in her life on her own. I thought it slightly bizarre/uncommon, but hey, I will not judge her for it. I assumed we'd just need extra time to let her explore herself, ya know? We did discuss kids as a possibility maybe in the late future, only to find out she absolutely does NOT want kids, and would even go so far as to abort if necessary. As a rule of mine, we were very open to the fact that if she ever did that to my child IF it came to pass, we would break up right then and there, no questions asked. So, we took extra precautions to make sure that never happened. So aside from that, I had been longing to get my dream career going, and when we began to date, I was still getting that ball rolling. At that time, I was in a dead-end sort of job just making ends meet, nothing too unusual. The good thing was because she was still getting HER ball rolling, was that for the first 6 months of us dating, she was living in a city near me for college. That was actually how we met. So we'd see each other almost every night, and do all those cheesy romantic thing in the movies(literally. it was beautiful). BUT, near the 6 month mark, she graduated. In order to save money for later, she moved back to another state with her parents until she got her career situated. Ok, I figured we'd manage that distance and be patient. That was until I got MY career going recently. This career is very dangerous, and I can't detail what I do per policy, but I have lots to learn about it. I am still living at home as well, considering the nature of my newfound job, the money-saving, and need of SOME support system for now. The problem with all this comes in with my gf pushing to move in with me. Not a bad idea, but I am not mentally ready considering that I have such a risky job, I am in too much stress to move out for the first time, with a gal I have barely seen in several months no less......I was afraid that if we rushed in together too soon, that we'd start to dislike what we saw in the newer versions of ourselves and then be stuck on a new lease. So, me trying to be smart...I said that we should wait a while longer, see each other more, re-learn each other after such a long time apart, and allow her time to get her career going before jumping into a rash decision. Time went on for a bit, and the sheer distance started to hurt us further. We became more distance, communicating less, even so far as to cuddling and just "feeling" the connectiveness fading....the lack of care/emotion....as if we were going through the motions out of obligation. our sex life had not improved at all, in fact got worse. I later came to learn by trial and error that she is asexual. She didn't even know because she never actively participated in those events even on her own in her developmental years. That event told me that one of the key aspects of a defining relationship was no longer an option. After all, what singular act separates a good friendship from a relationship: Intimacy. Couple that with our fading feelings, distance, and overall rushing of life....it was not looking good. Later, I find out that her career opportunities are looking bleak in our nearby area, and in order for her to achieve her dreams, she would need to leave here. Problem is that MY career REQUIRES me to live here. Then it hit me......I was trapping her......all this time, while I was merrily establishing my dreams and goals that I fought for since I was a child....she was being held back from her life because of it. I AM glad that we did not move in, as I still believe it's too early after just 1 year of dating, 6 months of actively seeing one another......we talked about how this was going....how much we were growing apart, how her life is basically on hold for "us", how my option for kids and starting a family are no longer existent.....how my desires in intimacy and hard romance were pressuring her and the guilt I had for not realizing sooner. I asked her if we would survive all of this.....and she had a long pause. Right then and there, I knew her answer without her saying it........so I decided.....if I am the singular thing thats keeping her from growing and having the life she needs.....who am I to lock her in a cage...? I let her go.......and ended "us".....Because of me, she can't be her. I know that she will find a much better match than I ever could be......even though my heart was in the right place.....it doesn't mean a thing if it doesn't help the other person. I was holding her back.....and now I wonder if I did the right thing? Couples are supposed to work past these bumps in the road....but when I asked her if we'd make it and I watched her shoulders slump and she looked away......I felt like we both knew that we wouldn't. Does this seem like a mistake? Sorry about the length, but I needed to paint a picture of our history and how we developed.
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    Yeah I noticed someone is missing. Hope everything is well with you surge. Padre do you have three jobs now?
  7. I'm thankful for this... https://help-qa.com/ the old better but new and improved Help.
  8. History is a curious thing.
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    Some where out there is a guy that needs you to complete him:) You deserve better. Take your chevy and go get um! Be well honey:) Max hugs Emerge.
  10. I am thankful for sincere gratitude, comfort, love, hugs, healing, healthy habits, exercise, balance, affection, attention, and much betterness.
  11. i used to think i was just whining all the time about what i was looking for, by the luck i ran into this well said seminar. charisma is not new to me.. its been an effort of mine.. tried and failed.. but this lady nails it.
  12. And I am thankful there's heat in the house where I will be soon! AND...I am thankful that I have this day mostly to myself to do whatever I want with.
  13. I am thankful for the Blazer some more.
  14. I feel like the only one in the world that stopped watching 13 reasons after a few episodes. I wasnt in a good place at the time and felt it was making it worse. Maybe I should watch again
  15. I'm thankful for freedom and the Chevy Blazer.
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    Thank you so much, just for saying something nice. It's so helpful.
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    Emerge, I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. Have an e-hug from me. *hugs* I don't really know what has been going on in your relationship, but from what you have mentioned... the fact that this isn't the first time he has gone silent... It sounds to me that there are unresolved issues somewhere along the line. I hope that you are able to resolve this soon so that you won't have to go through it anymore. Though we are slow here, Know that there will always be a shoulder to cry on.
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    Editing is like cleaning. I appreciate the love.
  19. I'm thankful to do whatever I want, which right now is sleep.
  20. I'm thankful that someone somewhere is really happy and their dreams are coming true and they are having such a great day. I am thankful that they exist and that life is good for them and I'm thankful for their happiness. And I'm thankful for people.
  21. Hi Manthy, I'm training in dog behaviour, I don't have experience with cats but I might be able to help. Have you had her examined by a vet? Aggression may be due to a pain or illness, visible or invisible. Without observing her it would be hard to see what would be triggering it, but I would take note on what occurs right before the attack and see if there's any kind of correlation. Its great your training her to come when called, maybe set up a little agility course and train her around that too. Also make sure she has a nice high spot to sit and observe. I take it she is a house cat too, so prehaps she needs more puzzles to solve and things to do. I hope that helps a little bit. If she is still being trouble then a feline behaviourist could really help you out. Honestly I wouldnt recommend another cat until you figure this one out.
  22. I'm thankful for October. I'm thankful for leaves, pumpkins, candles, campfires, and stories.
  23. I'm thankful for love.
  24. at this point.. all i can say is i feel ya. LIFE throws so much stuff at you. my recipe probably doesn't suit everyone, i just deal with it, take arms when the forces are against you and lay back when the world is in favor.
  25. And I'm thankful for rainy mornings.
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