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  1. Its hard to say, I have never been in that situation. But I would imagine circumstances would play a big part, distance, moving away, and if someone else was involved would deter me. Other questions I would ask is would working hours get in the way of spending time together? Are our interests and future goals aligned?
  2. I know how you feel, I'm nearing 30 and never had a serious relationship and I don't want to get married. That doesn't stop me feeling bad about myself like I should be getting married and having kids. Just like everyone around me. As long as you're happy it really doesn't matter. Other people shouldn't affect how you feel about yourself.
  3. Things are getting better :)

    1. Padre J Roulston

      Padre J Roulston

      And that is a good thing. :D


  4. Sorry, I have no idea. Why not pick a dorm and try to find out as much as possible about it. If you live in the area, drop by and see if the date is on the building.
  5. Take time out for yourself and do something completely meaningless. It took me a long time to figure this one out. I always felt guilty for doing something unproductive, like playing computer games, so much so that I never did anything fun, didn't watch much tv, movies or anything that just wastes time, so I got burned out working until 10pm every night. But its really freaking important to do nothing and not feel guilty about it.
  6. Harry Potter, because obviously I would love to be a witch and study at Hogwarts
  7. Movies are dramatised, they do it for effect. I'm sure every soldier has pics of their loved ones, and it's rare that anything happens to them and its definitely not because they took a picture with them.
  8. I've been suffering from anxiety for a long time now. Years ago I think it was depression, but now I don't really feel anything except anxious and frustrated. I don't think I am depressed now, but I am getting worse with anxiety. It's got to a point where I don't want to be around people. When people I know talk to me, it just feels like horrible loud noises in my head. Everything feels loud and irritating. The only time I leave the house is to walk my dog, and even that makes me anxious, some days I can't even do it. I walked him this morning, I can't let him off lead so I take him to a tennis courts so he can't run off anywhere. And it hit me... I feel safe in the tennis courts. I don't even drive anymore. I went to the docs on saturday, for something unrelated, I mentioned anxiety in passing to the doc, but I could feel my eyes start to water. She said I should make another appointment and talk to her about it. I want to, but I'm scared I'll start crying and have to walk home looking upset. And I wouldn't even know where to start if I did go back. I guess this is the first time I'm admitting that there is a problem
  9. I'm so sorry to hear that Pepper, I hope you're getting help too, sending hugs to you. I am feeling better, I considered stopping taking the meds but then reminded myself that I probably feel better because of the meds. It drags because i have to keep having appointments every 1-2 weeks. But Im more hopeful, determined and motivated now
  10. I did it in the woods twice, in the snow too. And im not convinced we wouldnt have been seen, i wasnt thinking with my brain in those moments. Same with barns and car parks. Honestly i much prefer in a bed where you can be more adventurous.
  11. Take a deep breath. You have a lot on your plate, but it sounds mostly out of your control and not really your problem. Does the roommate situation really effect you? It sounds like they're moving out and two new ones are moving in. Yes you have to live with them but it doesn't sound like there's much that you can do, or that you need to worry. I think your roommate could be dragging their feet because they're scared of moving on to the next chapter. Your dad clearly loves you, he takes your calls and offers support, but you feel he owes you financially? You're an adult so he doesn't, he is focused on his kids because they can't support themselves, and he might just be able to keep it together with nothing to spare. Your mum sounds needy and unable to cope with life alone. Maybe she is depressed, struggling. You could try to help her by showing her how to manage money. You seem to have a lot of fear. Mostly unfounded fear of things that haven't happened or might not happen. If you're contemplating suicide and feel depressed you should talk to a doctor. It will help.
  12. Maybe hold a meeting with parents telling them all the activities that you do etc so they know what the kids are up to. And be a little more authoritative when it is time to pack up and leave. Most kids these days have mobile phones so they should be able to let the parents know what theyre up to
  13. Sorry I have no idea, it might say on the menu when you get there, or ask a waiter
  14. she suggested that too, i do walk the dog, but its usually only twice a week lately. I dont like going out after 7.30am, and i just cant wake up lately. i have zero energy or motivation to work out atm im trying though.
  15. not sure what kind of vehicle a crossover is, but dont you do it on the seats? i never did it on the floor, we both had small hatchbacks too so not much space. but the back seats were fine
  16. I cried like a baby, and she recommended medication, said i should start to exercise again, and get out of the house for 15 mins a day. Its only low dose meds atm, and I have to see her again next week. Im kinda in a weird place, i dont feel depressed per se, just dont want to do anything, have no energy, dont want to leave the house and feel nervous, anxious about the future etc. not sad but not happy either.
  17. So she has to stay at home and live the life you want her to have because you dont want to have no kids living at home?
  18. Do you have a valid reason for not letting her go other than 'shes your little girl'? Because right now it sounds like the only reason you dont want her to go is because she is a girl. I've been in this exact situation. My parents didnt want me to join and did everything to stop me, unfortunately it worked, and now i resent them for taking it away from me and controlling my life. I can take care of myself way better than my brother ever would. Let her do what she wants to do. You didnt stop the others so it is selfish to sop her
  19. I booked the appointment for Friday. Oh gosh, Idk what I'm even gonna say, shes gonna ask whats wrong and I'm gonna be like '..........'.
  20. I'm ok with being alone now. Not sure if its better or worse but I don't cry anymore on a saturday night, I cherish my alone time instead. People don't like me and I accept that. I have no choice, otherwise it would make me miserable. I'm not saying people don't like you, but you can't stick around people just because they are all you have. Would you really rather be abused than be alone?
  21. what does a jewish person look like?
  22. Take his favourite food round to the hotel room and chat openly and honestly, be there for him, understand where he's at and dont make it about you, and the relationship. He probably needs someone to talk to, not pressurize him
  23. With the silly hat pics, maybe she was testing you to see if you said 'oh the ones on facebook?' And the car thing, idk, maybe shes excited about taking her test but doesn't want to jinx it? (I did that but I never dropped hints about it, I just never told anyone until after). It does sound like head games, maybe shes still a little bit immature?
  24. lmao I know right! But no, his gf was coming the week before so I assume he got it for her. I'm not gonna make fun of him, he's delicate and I know it would knock his confidence if I knew. And I would rather forget about it
  25. Kinda worried about my bro. I found out earlier this week that my brother is seeing this girl, shes coming over from Sweden this weekend and he's booked a hotel room in the city. This is a pretty big deal in my family just because we are weird. Anyway, last time he was seeing a girl, I did get worried about his diet, he eats pretty unhealthy, 99% of the food he eats is fast food and he never ever ever has a fruit or vegetable. Anyway, this time I'm worried he might be taking pills. Everyday when he leaves for work I hear rattling in his bag. Do you think I should look in his bag and see what they are? I'm thinking about this from a been there done it, know its shit and doesnt work perspective.