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  1. So, part of my job is sometimes I have to call people on the phone and let them know if they're not doing their job, or how to do their job, even though I'm not their boss, and in a lower pay grade than them. It's awkward. But hey, it's my job. I call this woman on the phone and let her know that she's doing something wrong and what the right way is. She intentionally gives me an untruth because she doesn't like the fact that the way to do her job correctly isn't as easy as not doing her job correctly. Basically explaining how she has a special situation where she can't do her job correctly, because it would actually be INCORRECT in this case, using a fancy word that I'm not familiar with. I accept this tentatively and hang up. OF COURSE I check with my boss on this but sometimes my boss is awkward and he explains to me that the woman is wrong, but also kind of right (but really she's just wrong and was lying to me). So I'm having this awkward unnecessary conversation where I'm just trying to get the right info across to myself, which I'm sure annoys my awkward boss as much as it annoys me, except I'm sure that it's MY FAULT in my awkward boss's mind (Komodo Dragon racism). So I call her back and she lies to me SOME MORE and I basically just say ok, but it doesn't matter because reality is still reality, that's the funny thing about reality, is that it's always reality no matter how much non-reality you dress it up with. And finally, she says, "ok" probably lying again and going to continue to do the wrong thing, which I will have to call her AGAIN about because apparently it's absolutely necessary that we always call these people for this particular no-no. That's my vent.
  3. I love him though. He's my beautiful boy.
  4. That was my sad attempt to draw using a computer app. It was supposed to be a cool looking weird looking dude but it didn't work out all too well.
  5. At the risk of being one of THOSE people I think having a significant other that you see regularly and with whom you can relieve your natural urges with and also cuddle with is a great way to destress healthily.
  6. That's a movie trick. The director wants you to feel extra bad for the guy when he dies in the next scene so they show you a pic of his wife and family who seem oh so happy and beautiful. Then they gut you with feelings.
  7. I have a crossover vehicle. Me and my gf tried it and it's terrible. We had an easier time in my old sedan. The problem is the floor is too hard to support our knees. And there's this weird incline that makes things complicated and uncomfortable as well. Can anyone think of any kind of mat or something I can put down back there? That would improve the situation dramatically, if we could kneel and it not hurt like a lot. PS we both live with our parents and it makes sex at eachother's homes problematic.
  8. Oral tends to be awkward, maybe because of our body types? Like I find it hard to reach her, and also my oral skills need work honestly. I'm better with my fingers. We're not rural enough to have a random patch of woods we can just roll into, unfortunately. I'd love to do while driving or in a plan, for the novelty, exactly. I'd get arrested so fast around here for the car thing though, it's just not practical.
  9. I hate it when people ask me to be creative. If I was creative, I wouldn't be asking this question. Ya'll need to make up for my lack dammit.
  10. The cheapest motel I could fine by googling around me was 90 dollars.....We would be going to a motel a few nights a week if it was that cheap. What I'm doing now is I lay two thick mattress covers down in the back and we do it on that. It's hard to get leverage sometimes, but it's been working reasonably well. The biggest problem now is that sometimes weird stuff happens around us, like there was a robbery in a store near where we did it last time. It can be spooky when you're alone in a parking lot and suddenly hear car noises and she starts twitching her head back and forth.
  11. It's probably also super competitive and I'm sure there are things like politics and nepotism involved. Not necessarily family nepotism but friend nepotism. Only a select few can become generals, there can only be a certain number of them at any given point in history, probably less than 20.
  12. how did everything go?
  13. Well, it happened again, different scenario where she basically tells me that she posts about me on social media but doesn't tell me what she posts. I'm going to mention it the next time we hang out. I'm just going to say, "I'm sure you're not doing it on purpose, but it's really annoying when you say "x" thing is a secret and just refuse to tell me. If you really don't feel comfortable telling me, you should be able to at least tell me why it' a secret, or failing at that, avoid bringing it up at all."
  14. So, the girl I've been dating the past few weeks did something yesterday a couple of times that really annoys me. She mentioned something in passing, and seemed excited about it, but was super vague. I know it has something to do with her getting a car from the context, but when I asked for more details she decided that it was a secret. It's not a secret, but she decided she didn't want to tell me more. That sort of thing drives me CRAZY. If you don't want to talk about something DON'T BRING IT UP! I hate, hate, hate when people bring something up, make it seems like it's something important, and then when you ask for more, they say nothing, and that it's "no big deal." If it's no big deal, then what's the big deal if you tell me? Later, she mentions that she took some pics of herself wearing a silly hat. She BRINGS the subject up, and in the same breath says "you won't ever see those pictures." I thought she was joking or just being playful, so I naturally asked to see the pic. She refused. Again, WHY ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT THIS THING IF YOU DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT. Furthermore, I check her facebook account just now, and there are the damn pics in question for the whole goddamn world to see. What kind of stupid head games are these? Is it just me? I'm seriously annoyed with her over this. Like, I had to make a choice yesterday: Do I ruin the date by being grumpy about this, or do I just play it cool and enjoy things? Edit: It's worth mentioning that, she knows that I rarely check my facebook, so I can reasonably assume she thought I wouldn't see the pics in questions. In fact, the only reason I was checking her facebook was because I wanted to find out her birthday. So there's another quandary: Do I tell her that I saw the pic? Or if I do, is she now going to be more careful about what she posts so I don't see it? I feel like she's not doing a good job of fostering trust with me with this sort of antic.
  15. To answer the last question first, no. But you should break up with him because you don't like him. You shouldn't date people you don't like. It's not good for either of you. Leave him and that way you'll be open to other, better relationships. Dealing with loneliness means finding ways to distract yourself: Hobbies. You need to find something to be interested in. What I started doing is using this site called I search for invents centered around my interests and I attend. I meet and talk to people. I don't always perform the best socially but it gets me out and makes me have to socialize and exercising those social muscles, so to speak. If you start going to the same meetup regularly you end up friends by association.
  16. The Lizard is Sick

    Straight from those lizardy fingertips. Super congested and mouth super dry. I've been drinking all day. Not the fun kind ugh. Eff you human born illnesses. I think I got the girl I' started dating last month sick. Sorry girl I started dating. I just really wanted to make out with you and didn't care that there was a tickle in my throat. I said I was sorry, for th record. Don't feel like sleeping because I'm congested so decided to come on here and waste some time. Tired but can't sleep. At least it's the weekend. Also feeling sad because I feel like I'm a terrible employee at my job. I come to work 10 minutes late on a regular basis. They don't say anything, but they notice. I'm not really an above average employee in terms of productivity, though I am a responsible one (except for the lateness) and I learn quickly. Super happy about having a gf but sad because I'm sick and we can't hang out right now. That's all I've got to say tonight, I guess.
  17. More likely than not, your family will be there for you no matter what at the end of the day: Cling to that. As far as the other stuff: Fear of being alone is no excuse for getting into an abusive relationship. When you do that, you're not just hurting yourself, you're enabling the abuser. If an abusive guy is willing to get in a rel with, there is bound to be a good guy who is too. They're out there, wait it out, look for them. I find it incredibly difficult to make friends myself, for the same reasons: I don't know what to say, I find it hard to read body language and pick up on social cues, and I get bored and/or exhausted if I'm out in a crowd for too long, it's like constant stream of stress to me. The best way for an introvert to make friends is to try and do it around a hobby. That's honestly the only way I've been able to keep any friends at all, and I don't really have any close friends. The couple I've had in my life have faded away for one reason or another. Just because you don't have friends, it doesn't mean there is something wrong with you. Movies and pop culture want you to think that everyone has friends and that everyone is constantly in this orgy of friendship and that relationships are the tough thing. It doesn't really work that way. There are lots of friendless people out there. It's really a personality thing more than anything else.
  18. "What humanity really is" is a philosophical question that has no clear cut answer, and, admittedly, the response to which has a big impact on person's ethical standpoints. If you think, for whatever reason, that animals are somehow MEANT to be food, whether for religious or evolutionary reasons, then okay, Fair enough. Then you can justify that it's okay, despite the fact that they are suffering creatures, that their suffering just doesn't matter. I mean, it's the same type of justification lots of Nazis used for violence against people they considered Non-Aryan, but hey, maybe the two issues aren't comparable. I mean, animals aren't people, clearly the people that the Nazis tortured and killed were people. In any case, philosophical musing aside, I think the question as to whether we should or shouldn't be cruel to animals is pretty immediate and doesn't require much thought. I think we all, deep down, know that killing and torturing animals is...exactly what it is: Killing and torturing something that can feel sadness and pain. It's not something you can honestly deny to yourself when you actually have to look at a creature and break its bones and puncture its organs with your own hands. And I think if many of the full blooded carnivores today actually had to kill their burgers themselves, burgers would be less popular. In my opinion the whole "animals are meant to be food" thing is convenient rationalization to avoid taking hard look at what humanity is doing to animals. I wouldn't normally phrase it that way, of course, cus it might come off as a bit patronizing, but hey, whatever.
  19. Well, for the record, things have been going great over all and this bit of drama hasn't popped up again. Part of me feels like I overreacted now too, but I'm not sure. In any case. just hope things keep going well.
  20. It's not always appropriate to be completely direct, but if it comes up again, I'll say something. And I have a feeling it WILL come up again, sigh.
  21. Hahahaha. That's great. You could totally mess with him. Tell him that you support his decision and that you love him no matter what.
  22. Porn?
  23. Well, the thing is many people will seriously say "eating vegetables is the same thing as eating animals." I was just trying to be respectful of your opinions. I've even had people try to convince me that animals just don't feel pain, which is ridiculous. That being said, I'm gonna assume Hawklan's last paragraph was also sarcastic. In any case, the kinds of animals that humans eat, cows, chickens, pigs, deer, etc: They are, to varying degrees, social animals. So while you might assume (and in this case it really is a an assumption because we don't know that much about animal brains to say for sure) that these animals emotions aren't as complex as humans, they definitely do have some emotive capacity. They feel things like fear and concern for their young. They get stressed. We can know this because they exhibit the physical signs and behaviors associated with such emotions. It's not a leap, I would say, to also assume that they experience things like sadness and something like satisfaction and happiness. And, again, even despite that, why is it that lack of emotional capacity makes physical pain irrelevant? If I couldn't feel emotions, I still wouldn't want to be in a state of constant physical pain or discomfort. Why would I not feel bad about putting a creature through physical torture just because it couldn't feel sad about it afterward?
  24. Im opposed, in an absolute sense, to neither. Im just thinking in terms of utilitarian calculus, ie, what is physically/psychologically worse for the animal in question. Its the difference between dying in battle and dying in a concentration camp. Some slaughtering facilities are probably better than others, of course. The other aspect about hunting and cleaning your own food is that, in saner individuals, it would hopefully give you a deeper appreciation for what the animal goes through to provide you with nutrition. And its not an assumption on the vegetable bit: vegetables dont have brains or a central nervous system, so no, they dont feel pain or experience loss in the way that many emotionally evolved mammals do.