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  1. Hey guys, I'm trying to compile the healthiest advice out there so I can access it whenever I want, namely when I come here out of habit because I'm a little stressed out. When I'm a little stressed out I sometimes make less optimally healthy life choices, and I'd rather reset that. Anyway! Hit me, what's the healthiest advice you have, the little rules you follow that help you, or the way you like to get grounded?
  2. So I was in a long term relationship for almost a decade when things weren't going so well(and both of us agree they really weren't) we decided to end it(moved out of our home, switched jobs, different car/place, the whole 9 yards of change). After the relationship we decided not to cut each other out of our lives completely though, and tried and actually managed to stay good friends. I figured if I could keep him around as a friend it would be good, and I would be free to go find romantic/sexual happiness else where. We have been out of our relationship for at least 3 years now probably closer to 4. I've found meeting new people is really difficult since we broke up. I've met new people sparsely over the last 3 years. I haven't found the connection I've been looking for although I did manage to experiment with some sexual fantasies I never got to fulfill and that was fun! But all in all I don't feel like I'm meeting people and making real connections. I'm more nervous than excited when I do meet someone new. There are people out there who are willing to hang with me but my nerves often prevents me from meeting and dating or whatever in the first place, and the nervousness get's in the way of the fun I feel I should be having when I do meet someone new. So I tend to end up with my ex on the couch watching netflix and being friends. I have to wonder what is really going on here. My friendship with my ex has gotten better and better and I've even considered getting back together with him. I still care a lot about him but I'm scared if I went back to that situation, those things that got out of control for a while would come back. I often find myself pushing that idea away and deciding it's not worth the risk to find myself in a similar situation as before. I know what we had at the end is not what I want. It's not what I expected our relationship to turn into. Should I risk that? Or appreciate that we have a great friendship now and go about my fun until something solid comes along? How do you get comfortable with meeting new people after ten years in a monogamous relationship? If we end up getting back together at any point in our lives, I can't help but see all this time apart as a huge waste of time. Except I know if we didn't separate and get away from our situation at the time, I might have died. I was so stressed that I think I was close to heart attack. Not just because of him, but because we were doing life alone and no where I went and no one I went to seemed to care. Jobs were hard, money was hard, our relationship was stressed, sex wasn't happening due to exhaustion and being overworked and still never enough money, we fought. Bad relationship? Or good relationship gone bad due to extraordinary(or maybe all to common?) circumstances? Either way, why would I be considering him or feeling guilty when I go on a date? We're not together and we're both aware our friendship doesn't limit what we do romantically/sexually with others. Very confusing times...
  3. Me (25/f) and my SO (26/m) have been together for 8 months now. During these 8 months, I have found him on single hookup websites. He swears that he loves me and he won't do it again after every time I have found him doing this. After finally looking on his phones history, I found over 10 websites he has profiles on and conversations I wish I could unsee. This is now the 4th time I have found him doing this. I am left again, hurt and upset. He wants us to work out but I am honestly thinking about ending it. I asked him why he does it and he has no answer for me. He just says "I don't know why. I F***** up, I'm sorry" I am so tired of hearing I'm sorry, it doesn't fix anything. He has told me all of his relationships only last a little shy of a year long and he has never been the one to end them. So this relationship seems to be going right along his track record. I want things to work out, but I don't think I can trust him. I don't know if he has ever hooked up with anyone while we were together. He claims he's never cheated... I don't trust he would give me the honest truth on that. We have a lot in common and for once everyone in my life loves the guy I'm with. I have invested a lot of time becoming close with his family and friends so that makes this decision that much harder. Other than his loyalty, we have no other problems just a few normal disagreements here and there. I don't feel sexually secure in our relationship due to all of this. I am just so lost on if I should give him one last chance to make it right or walk away. I don't know how trust can be gained at this point and I am broken/torn. I feel stupid for trusting him again. We were planning on moving in together at the end of my lease which is in November, our 11 month mark. But I don't even know if I want to do that now. I love him but at this point I'm not falling in love with him anymore. He has burned me and I can forgive him but I'll never forget it. I told him I needed some time to think things over because I didn't want to make a decision out of anger. Of course, the main answer going through my head is to just let him go because he is obviously claiming to be single and talking to others. But then he cries to me and tells me how much he wants me in his life forever and will do anything to make this right. * What do I do? * How can I take a step back from this? Advice please!!!?
  4. Hello, I just recently got engaged and have been working through wedding planning with my mother and fiance. We are now working the the invite list and he told me he didn't want my whole family there because he is only inviting his immediate family (3ppl) and a couple friends (3ppl). Working on my list of family and friends, I have 120ppl that I want to invite (only about 30 are friends, I am Spanish so I have a large family). I told him I want to invite all of them because we are all close but he said he didn't want his parents and brother to be the only ones on his side while I had over 100... But ever since I was young I imagined my wedding and all of my family was there... I don't want them to miss out on a big part of my life when they have always been there for everything else. I told him it isn't my fault that his family didn't want to all keep in contact. I feel like I shouldn't be punished for that... But I don't want him to be unhappy... Am I being a selfish? Anonymous poster hash: 2198e...39d
  5. Everyone at school hates me, i hate me...ive self harmed 3 months ago but was clean ever since last week where i became weak again. I need help, i dont know what to do anymore, every night im just laying in bed crying myself to sleep. I want to go back to normal and be happy, can someone please give me advice of how to accept myself for who i am and to stop hating myself?
  6. Would you rather consider a move into a large MNC with its presence in multiple countries or stick on to a small agency that is focused on one market only? Pay is same in both.
  7. Hello everyone, I very much need some answers and advice. So I am a 17 year old girl and soon i will be going to college. But heres the problem, I plan on leaving my family after high school and setting off alone. I plan on getting a job, renting a small place to live, and somehow paying for my college. (i plan to first get my associates from a community college, then transfer to a 4 year to study psychology). I wont get into why I plan to leave my family, because I am not looking for a pity party, I just want out. can someone please help? Realistically, do you think i am able to do this? i am trying to get some money saved up...but it is very hard. i have $200 hidden in my room now, and i have another year of high school before i leave. But i also know that my parents have some of my money in the bank, although i do not know exactly how much... please. i am very determined to do this. im even going to take self defense classes so i can know how to defend myself when i am alone haha. someone, please give me advice... thank you so much
  8. Hi everyone, I'm looking for tips to lose weight. i work during the day, then look after my daughter and then when she goes to bed I write on line work. Any tips on how to lose weight? how to cut out junk food? would like to lose 15-20 lbs. Thanks
  9. So I was doing laundry when I found a needle on the floor. I picked it up and looked at it; it's unused, it has an orange cap covering the actual needle, and it says "BD U-100 insulin 1 mL/cc" on it. I have a type II diabetic grandfather, but he doesn't take insulin injections, so I'm wondering where it came from. My mom and her boyfriend live at the house, and I know my mom has tried drugs in the past, I suspect one being heroine, and years ago I found a pipe in her room made out of a light bulb - I don't know what drug that's for, but I sincerely doubt anything legal. I know she smokes weed, but it's legal in my state and I'm not terribly offended by weed anyway. My concern is that she might be doing heroine or something else, or that maybe she's clean, but her boyfriend isn't. None of the telltale signs are there, though. I grew up in a somewhat violent neighborhood, and I'm aware of most of the signs of drug abuse. My mom wears t-shirts a lot, and there aren't any injection marks on her arms. Her boyfriend sometimes wears t-shirts, I've mostly seen him in sweaters though it is winter here, but until finding this I never thought to pay close attention to the look of his skin. There's the possibility of injecting into the webs of the toes, and I don't have a way of closely inspecting their feet, but I just find this whole thing really doubtful. They both work, socialize, and all that. I haven't noticed teeth grinding or constant scratching or... well, really anything suspect. We don't have people running in and out; the only visitors we get are typically visiting me. The only evidence I have really is the needle and my mom's ambiguous history. My question is this; what drugs could be injected with an insulin needle, and what are some signs I should be aware of to indicate drugs? Like smells, or maybe types of carpet stains or something, I dunno. The absolute last thing I want to do right now is force a confrontation; I've witnessed how those work out with addicts - denial, denial, denial, tension, tension, tension. But if there are drugs in my grandfather's house, I want to be aware of it. There's one more thing - in the event that I do find definitive proof that my mother or her boyfriend is bringing drugs into the house, what are the steps I should take to get them to seek help? Kicking them out isn't an option because it's not my house and thus not my place, and when I showed my grandfather the lightbulb pipe as proof of drugs he refused to acknowledge it and preferred ignorance to addressing the issue. So basically I'm flying solo here; if my mom is on drugs, what can I say to sow the seeds of her seeking help? Anonymous poster hash: 9c349...14d
  10. Hi Everyone, I have gained about 20 lbs in the last year. This is unbelievable for me. Anyways, I need to figure out a way that works for me to lose weight. I don't have a lot of time...I work during the day, take care of my daughter (and clean the house) and then I write online work at night. Life is really stressful between money problems and my job. Every time I'm stressed, I reach for some kind of junk food (or if I don't have any, I find a way to go buy some). Life is pretty overwhelming and I just don't know how to deal with it without junk food. I eat WAY WAY too much junk food. I know that and that I don't have time to exercise...but I...I'm just in over my head. Any advice on a good way that can help me lose weight? And of course a safe way! I need to lose 15 lbs anyways. I want to be healthy, I want to live a long time to grow old with my hubby and watch my daughter grow up and then spoil my grandbabies. Any ideas please? I'm desperate. I'm SOOOO unhappy with my body right now and I'm feeling really overwhelmed....thanks in advance.