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  1. Hello all, Took me awhile to re-find this website. Looks like it's had a bit of a makeover. Who would like to share with me their personal experiences making a difficult decision of deciding whether someone was right or not right for you? To clarify - this is making a decision to pursue a relationship with someone, not a decision whether to stay with or leave someone. I'd like to know why the decision was difficult, what factors you took into account to help with your decision, and whether it worked or didn't work out. I thought about sharing my own conundrum, but I think the question framed in this way will help me with the pickle I'm in . Thanks in advance for your time and sharing.
  2. I am so lost and can't seem to be okay. Long story short... At the beginning of the year, I lost my mother on my birthday. I have been numb to it on and off. I just try to shut it out of my head. My boyfriend tried to be here for me but with my depression becoming worse, he didn't know how to. He helped me get signed up for a therapist and see a doctor. I haven't started therapy yet and I really need to cuz I feel like I'm losing it... Then a month ago, a tornado took out my boyfriends house. Nothing could be saved. I tried to gather as many donations I could get to help him out. I'm trying to be here for him and his family but he is constantly shutting me out. He has started being really mean towards me.. it is now to the point where he won't answer the phone or any texts.. When I do see him, he is never in a good mood and tells me how annoying I am when I am in a bubbly happy mood. I've noticed even towards his mom he is in a bad mood. He has quit his job and barely leaves his hotel room. He has fallen into a depression, which is completely understandable. Today, he finally answered the phone and he didn't have anything nice to say. He told me I needed to be free of him and walk away. He feels nothing is going to get better and he doesn't want to continually drag me down with him. This really hurts me because I love him so deep. I can't imagine life without him. He used to say we were soulmates and now he won't even look at me. He's the only person I have since my mom has passed. I literally feel like I can't take anymore. I just want to be okay... I don't know what to do, I'm so lost and hurt. I just want to wake up from this nightmare. How can I support him? How can this relationship be turned around?
  3. The Yoke of Jesus

    Welcome everyone! I would like to thank all of you for joining me this sermon. Before I start, I would invite all of you to add a prayer request to our Prayer Request Page. We all have something that needs prayer. We all have things that we need help with. Many people find that the Catholic Church is old fashioned, and don’t like going to their services because of that; especially if they normally go to a Pentecostal, or Baptist Church. One of the things about the Catholic Church that is considered old fashioned is the Vestments that the priests wear at mass. Each part of the priestly garb (vestments) has a specific symbolism. The one piece of priestly garb that I want to speak of today is the Stole. What the stole symbolizes is the yoke of Jesus. We are all supposed to take on the yoke of Jesus, because his load is light, and in turn He will help us with our yoke; our burden, which is heavy. Job 31:7-8 (NIV) 7 if my steps have turned from the path, if my heart has been led by my eyes, or if my hands have been defiled, 8 then may others eat what I have sown, and may my crops be uprooted. If we all turn to God, and let Jesus help to carry our yoke, our burden, then the above passage would not have to happen to us. Many of us profess to believe in God. Yet hide that belief. We don’t do as we are called. We are all called to minister to those who have not heard the word… or those who do not believe. We are called to evangelize. This does not mean that we all need to be out on the street corner with a bible in hand shouting out the word of the Lord. In fact most don’t have to change much in how we live. In everyday conversation there is often an opening to talk about God, and how God leads our lives. If we were all to do this it would make a difference. We would be getting God’s word out into the world without being the preachy on the street corner type. And if we trust in God then when we are asked questions about our beliefs, the Holy Spirit will guide our words and heart. We will answer these questions true. Faith is a powerful thing. Faith is what would allow you to take on the yoke of Jesus, and in turn unburden yourself. Matthew 11:28-30 (NIV) 28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” What does it mean to have faith in Jesus? Was Jesus real? Did Jesus die and ascend into Heaven? Or how about is Jesus God? To have faith in Jesus and His teachings is to believe that He is real, He did die and ascend into Heaven, and that He is God. If these statements are not true statements then we are all just a bunch of people worshiping a mad man who rotted away 2000 years ago. Lucky for us though these statements are true; and because of that we can still get help from Jesus with our burden. Jesus, who is God, is still here to take on our burdens. Every one of us has something that presses on our soul. Something that we are ashamed of, or something that troubles us about ourselves. That is something that taking Jesus’ yoke can help us with. Every one of us has a bad relationship with someone else. By following the word of God, we can ease that relationship. Matthew 22:34-40 (NIV) 34 Hearing that Jesus had silenced the Sadducees, the Pharisees got together. 35 One of them, an expert in the law, tested him with this question: 36 “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” 37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbour as yourself.’ 40 All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” Jesus is telling us in these verses in the simplest of terms the easiest way to take on his yoke. The easiest way to lighten our burden. First and foremost, Love God. If we love God, we believe in Him; we have Faith in Him. And secondly ‘Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.’ If we did this then we would be able to mend the burnt, or broken bridges in the bad relationships we all have. We all have the need to take on the Yoke of Jesus. We all have the desire to take on the Yoke of Jesus. I challenge you to do so. This week, try and love others as you love yourself. Read the teachings of Jesus. And what I would recommend for this is to read the Gospel of Mark. It is the shortest of the Gospels and it is an easy read. And pray while you read. Remember prayer is about being in communion with God. May God Bless you and Keep you. Granting us all peace and happiness. Thank you for reading this Sermon.
  4. Me (25/f) and my SO (26/m) have been together for 8 months now. During these 8 months, I have found him on single hookup websites. He swears that he loves me and he won't do it again after every time I have found him doing this. After finally looking on his phones history, I found over 10 websites he has profiles on and conversations I wish I could unsee. This is now the 4th time I have found him doing this. I am left again, hurt and upset. He wants us to work out but I am honestly thinking about ending it. I asked him why he does it and he has no answer for me. He just says "I don't know why. I F***** up, I'm sorry" I am so tired of hearing I'm sorry, it doesn't fix anything. He has told me all of his relationships only last a little shy of a year long and he has never been the one to end them. So this relationship seems to be going right along his track record. I want things to work out, but I don't think I can trust him. I don't know if he has ever hooked up with anyone while we were together. He claims he's never cheated... I don't trust he would give me the honest truth on that. We have a lot in common and for once everyone in my life loves the guy I'm with. I have invested a lot of time becoming close with his family and friends so that makes this decision that much harder. Other than his loyalty, we have no other problems just a few normal disagreements here and there. I don't feel sexually secure in our relationship due to all of this. I am just so lost on if I should give him one last chance to make it right or walk away. I don't know how trust can be gained at this point and I am broken/torn. I feel stupid for trusting him again. We were planning on moving in together at the end of my lease which is in November, our 11 month mark. But I don't even know if I want to do that now. I love him but at this point I'm not falling in love with him anymore. He has burned me and I can forgive him but I'll never forget it. I told him I needed some time to think things over because I didn't want to make a decision out of anger. Of course, the main answer going through my head is to just let him go because he is obviously claiming to be single and talking to others. But then he cries to me and tells me how much he wants me in his life forever and will do anything to make this right. * What do I do? * How can I take a step back from this? Advice please!!!?
  5. My parents messed my sisters and I up. It started since I was born. As soon as I was able to understand, my parents let me know I was a tool to fix their marriage and was unplanned, my dad was a hibitual cheater and hard core drug user, my mom is mentally unstable and has called us girls whores and bitches since we were very very young. Just before my parents divorced my dad had held a gun to ourheads saying he was going to kill us because we were broke due to him spending all our money on strippers and drugs. They divorced when I was almost 6. After, my mom searched desperately for a man for years. She told us all we need is a man to take us in, don't trust men, that our dad was the devil (and most times we were because we are his kids), a big one was that men always cheat. There was physical abuse, verbal and mental abuse. I finally married the love of my life and I want to be with him until the day I die, but all these memories, these repressed memories, these horrible things from memory and the way I was taught that I need to move on from and learn to overcome what my mom taught. Like I have a huge fear if abandonment, I'm antisocial and barely talk to anyone but my husband, I have major trust issues and so on. Please give me some advice, please share how you got over your mental issues like this. What can I do?? Anonymous poster hash: 97427...fcd
  6. I cannot sleep nor stand nor purge And it's just too much to avoid this urge For once we really had it all However, now gone, as is our merge Feeling blinding waking light As though I've yet to start the fight It's raged for many a sullen fall And yet it starts again tonight Who the hell needs a bed this size and who the hell needs such wet eyes I swear if I could rise that tall I'd willingly heed my own demise It must be lonely there upon support Strength and roots, a veritable fort Loving memories hung on the wall I have nothing but retort I'll leave it be, accept my fate Though disposition dictates hate And though I'll probably drop the ball I'll just sit here and wait
  7. I want to ask my boyfriend a TON of cute questions, such as "Why is it when you smile, everyone just stares?" or "How is it your voice can sooth me when I'm in full-panic mode?" or "What does it feel like to be perfect?" Stuff like that. Help?
  8. Before you say "eww gross" hear me out. Im 22 and hes 28. Our parents have been married for 4 years. We didnt grow up together and we are not related by blood. When we first met i was 16 and he was 22. It was literally like love at first sight when we met (i know thats so cliched but its the best way to describe how we felt). But we never acted on our feelings. He was enlisted in the Navy and deployed shortly after our meeting. Through the years weve tried to stay away from each other, we really have. But since he got back from his last tour we cant seem to stay apart... Weve not yet done anything sexual aside from some heavy kissing. Our parents arent exactly happy about our "relationship". But they are seeming to come around and understand it. They can see how much we truly care for one another. So my question to you is, based on the information ive provided, would our relationship really be considered wrong? Is it really such a bad thing? Ty Anonymous poster hash: 014f0...b66 Anonymous poster hash: 014f0...b66
  9. Hey everyone, saying it's been a while since I made a post is quite an understatement, lol. However, something came up that's really heavy on my mind. Here goes: In two of my classes this semester, I met this girl (let's call her Cher) who sits near me (in both classes). A part of her story really caught my attention when we were introducing ourselves a few weeks ago. I was one of the last people to introduce myself and when I said my last name and where I was from, I saw out the corner of my eye that she did a double take because not only do we happen to have the same last name, but her hometown is where I was born. The teacher asked if we were related, she quickly said no, lol. Moments later and a few times during the week when I ran into her by chance, she started calling me her 'new' cousin. It felt pretty cool. I never known my father, but from what I had been told, I have long lost relatives in the same place where Cher grew up. Lately, I have been attempting to build a bridge with her. Despite how well we seemed to get a long in the first week (and despite my social skills being MUCH better now), I am having trouble connecting with her. The usual 'one word answers' when I ask her things. She does speak to me in both classes. I don't want to push too hard, but there's a part of me that says it would be super cool if it turned out that we were long lost cousins who met in college. I just wish I knew for sure. For those of you who remember, I don't really have any family and I'm all by myself. It's rough when you see other people having fun with friends and family and you're all alone. I guess I just want to befriend her, even if she is a few years younger than I am. I am having trouble as I don't know what to say to her. The only other thing is that we have similar majors (media related). But as I said, I don't want to push too hard and have her thinking I'm a creep, you know.
  10. I'm on here because I feel very lost and confused at the moment. I feel very depressed about my life and situation and don't know what to do. Feel like I've made a mess of everything.. I'm 38 years old and really want to settle down with someone I love and have children.. but at the same time I want a career and to earn good money as I am sick of being poor! I have got myself onto a degree course in September to train to become an occupational therapist. I currently work as a support worker and so the work will be similar to what I do now. I chose to do the course away from my home town as at the time I was sick of where I live and wanted to move somewhere new. I had a boyfriend but couldn't commit to him as always thought about moving away. he also worked evenings and weekends and I was unhappy about being on my own so much as I work days. He is a lovely guy.. very caring and we get on well.. Due to my unhappiness with my situation things got worse. We hardly saw each other and he was out of the country for 3-4 months over the last two years as his dad was ill and he had to spend time with him. During this time we pretty much lost contact. We haven't been sexually active for a year now. I have now broken it off and we have agreed to be friends. Recently someone else started to show interest in me and asked me out. We've been on a few dates and I like him a lot and he says he really likes me. Problem is I am moving away to do the course in 3 months time. I feel horrible today because I met up with my ex and he was saying how hard things are and he misses me and he feels so alone (plus his father died..) I feel so awful like its all my fault and that i've abandoned him.. I feel a strong attraction to the new guy I've met where I feel more of a warm affection for my ex. Problem is I'm about to leave both of them behind- to follow a career I'm not sure I want. I'm scared.. I was excited about moving away but now I'm sad and depressed. What should I do? I've told my ex I'm seeing somebody new but actually it's only been 3 dates and because I feel so down and because I've planned to move away it may not go anywhere. I feel so sad too and alone. I just wish I could be happy with what I have and have a family but I feel I want more than the poor paid job I have. The other problem I have is that I already have one degree in fine art and my passion is also for travel and photography. these are the things I find myself dreaming about. Suddenly leaving seems very frightening but staying now feels like I'd be missing out. Can anyone offer me some wise words to help me be happy and content?
  11. So, I like a guy, but I'm not sure how he feels about me. At times I have felt that he is interested, other times I believe he sees me as just a friend. I've known him for around 3 months. He works at a bar/restaurant that I have become a regular at - this is one of the main things that confuses the issue. Is he being friendly to me because I am mainly a customer to him? We have become friends, and I don't believe he sees me only as a customer, as I am treated differently to other customers, and have become friends with the owners. I do try to flirt with him, but I admit I'm not very good! Maybe he doesn't realize I'm interested in him. I would like to be more direct and tell him that I am interested in him - but what if he doesn't feel the same way? I can deal with that - I'm already pretty convinced he's not, and would still like to be friends with him. But I feel it would be awkward be around him after. I guess I'm worried about losing him as a friend if I try to see if our relationship could move beyond that. Is it worth taking that risk? Is it likely to damage our friendship? What's the best way to show my interest in not too strong a way? Ideally, I'd like to just find out if he's interested in me first! Thanks! Anonymous poster hash: 95f1c...7a8 Anonymous poster hash: 95f1c...7a8
  12. Hello, I just recently got engaged and have been working through wedding planning with my mother and fiance. We are now working the the invite list and he told me he didn't want my whole family there because he is only inviting his immediate family (3ppl) and a couple friends (3ppl). Working on my list of family and friends, I have 120ppl that I want to invite (only about 30 are friends, I am Spanish so I have a large family). I told him I want to invite all of them because we are all close but he said he didn't want his parents and brother to be the only ones on his side while I had over 100... But ever since I was young I imagined my wedding and all of my family was there... I don't want them to miss out on a big part of my life when they have always been there for everything else. I told him it isn't my fault that his family didn't want to all keep in contact. I feel like I shouldn't be punished for that... But I don't want him to be unhappy... Am I being a selfish? Anonymous poster hash: 2198e...39d
  13. Hello, It's been a really long time since I've been on Help... Years ago, from the ages of about 10 to 16, I was physically and sexually abused numerous times... I used to have constant nightmares about them and they used to make me wake up shaking and crying...Then the nightmares stopped about 6 months ago... Recently the nightmares came back and they feel just as real as the actual thing... But this time I wake up shaking and feeling very arroused.... The thoughts are constantly in my head... If I look at a guy, the thought will pop in my head and its like my body wants it to happen... But I don't... I want these thoughts to stop.... What can I do...?
  14. Hi help community, I haven't been on this site since it popped up I used to be on the old site so I sorta know how things go. I am wanting some advice though. I will try to keep this as short as possible. About 6 months ago the guy I was with for 3 years moved with me to another state, I am going through a divorce with 2 children, and he sorta came into my life and has stuck by me through some serious stuff, from abuse to my childrens issues, to helping me escape the hell I was constantly in. He did everything he could to support me and my kids without being asked. I never asked him for any of it at first. After being together for a couple years and him playing the role of dad to the kids because he wanted to I'd ask for things, general things, help change diapers, can you bathe the kids, etc etc. He never complained. We hardly argued, we have amazing chemistry together, we find the same things funny, we both have a lot in common. Since we moved, we've been under bookoos of stress. I mean one thing after another. The place we are in isn't the best, the job he got is screwing him, I make more than him in one day than he does in two weeks, and he decided to join the military well the week he was signing up for it, the ged acceptance closed. He has decided to go reserve where as I would've suggested he wait until it opens again for ged, I didn't want him to feel like I was sending mixed signals about what I want him to do/not do. It isn't my decision it's his, and I want to support him no matter what he does. Now I am older than him, by 7 years so sometimes I know he's not as experienced with things so it can weigh on him more. Once he got that news, and his hours got cut at work, he started getting depressed which is perfectly normal I'd say, but he's taking it out on the relationship. He told me he can't do this anymore, that he loves me and wants to be with me, and such but he's not able to do it right now. He got upset when I made a comment about my self worth while drinking. Well that seemed to set all this in motion I guess. Then he started saying he thinks I'm going to sleep with this guy that I've known for 10 years, if him and I were gonna sleep together, we would've but he's more friend zone than friend zone can be. I asked him about him saying it, and he denied it but I heard it from 3 different people, that he's worried I'll be running around on him while he's at basic. I've tried to reassure him that's not going to happen, I'm even taking out my birth control, I'm getting into therapy to deal with drinking (which is not a problem but it was in the past and I started slipping and when I caught myself slipping I called up the mental health services to make an appointment!), I just am so lost at what I can do. I know he needs the space, I know he needs to breathe and figure out what he wants, and I want him to have that, but I don't want to lose him. If people saw us and had no idea what was going on they'd have no idea we're "on hiatus" they'd think we're a happy couple. He's holding my hand and giving me hugs and kisses, he isn't saying I love you as much as if trying to distance himself but he admits on almost a daily basis that he does love me. He did a complete dr jeckyll/mr hyde thing too with all this, a couple hours before he had told me it was "over" he was holding my hand, helping me pick out school supplies for my kids, telling me he loved me asking if I was going to ride with him or take the truck home then he goes over to my sisters, gets around her husband and bam, "it's over" then the next couple days he cries, he tells me he loves me, but he can't do it, then a couple hours after he says he can't do it, he says after basic he wants to give it another shot. Tells me I need to have my stuff straight. What it is that needs to be straight idk. I've got a job, a car, insurance, a house to live, my kids are taken care of, I'm in therapy starting next week. I don't know if it's his own insecurities. I know no one can tell me what he is thinking but I'm hoping maybe I can just get some good advice to help me get through this hard time, and also help him get through it. He left for meps today and I told him I know he's smart and intelligent and he will do great on the asvab and he'll come home with great news about the job he gets to pick. He smiled at me and hugged me and kissed me. He brought his laptop so we can talk on the internet tonight too. He's making plans too for the future and has been talking to me about them as well such as moving to another state and the kids and stuff. I mean one would assume he doesn't want to lose the relationship, but then again idk. I am trying to hope for the best but prepare for the worst. Anonymous poster hash: bbb9a...6f7
  15. Hi, i love a girl for more than six years. I informed it to her family as well as mine while she was studying at tenth std. Her family told me to bring a good job and we will accept ur love. But she says that she dont like love and so she hate me. I asked her to wait for me. but she says i doesn't feel any love on you.. then why should i wait? When she saw me staring at her.. she will turn her face to the opposite direction and will go without looking at me a bit. Now she is a college girl. I usually await her on my friends house which is near her home and she also know that. that way is a turning and while she reach that turning point she will turn back and will make a look at me... i thought it will be just a look for the first time... but she does it usually whenever she saw my bike infront of my friends house. But still when she saw me on road walking opposite of her direction she will turn her head into my opposite direction... still she doesn't pick my calls or ans my sms... but she does this turn back and look continuesly since one year... i am totally confused about her behaviour... for what she is looking for? What does it mean? Is she is interested on me or she hate me? Someone says she doesn't love you it is just because of her age... someone says she has an interest on you and she will accept your love while you bring a god job.. she rejects you because she thinks this is not the right time to love or marriage.. what should i do? Pls pls pls... anybody could help me... now i am in a good job... settled... still i am waiting... and i am able tobwait her until her degree is complete... will she accept me? Does her look means she has any interest on me? Guys.. i am out of my mind... pls help me.. Anonymous poster hash: 9781c...4d9
  16. I am a single, 17 year old guy. On a school vacation to Hawaii, consisting of about 35 people. I met this girl that is in the same group. She showed a lot of interest in me. We talked a lot and did a variety of tourist related things together. She was laughing at most of my bad jokes, and she liked to play with my hat. After doing all that, we learned a lot about each other, and I began to like her. In the smoothest way possible, I told her, “if you're not doing much this summer, maybe we should hang outâ€. After saying that, she paused for second and said “sorry, I got distractedâ€. She then walked away and since then, has not spoken to me. What did I do wrong? Did I do something wrong? If so, then how do I fix it? Can I fix it? Should I fix it? This all happened in the past week and a half (first week of June).
  17. So, there's this girl I really like. Maybe I even love her, I don't know. We use to have a thing back in like 9th grade, but I messed it up and told her I didn't want a relationship, so she eventually found someone else. The guy was a douchebag that treated her like shit and I tried to convince her to leave him, but she never would. She eventually did break up with the guy, just to start dating another douchebag that was even worse than the previous guy. He was a scum bag that ignored her all the time. She cheated on him with me, and I've been trying to get her to break up with him to be with me. I treat her so well. She makes me happy, and I make her happier. She's so great to be around and I can't see myself with any other girl. She made me mad one day and I told her to quit talking to me, so she did, she never once tried to text or call me after that until one day I texted her first. We began to talk again and we decided to hang out at my house. We would always flirt and just have so much fun together, then the same day her scummy boyfriend breaks up with her. I was currently trying to talk to another girl, to get over her, and when I started to talk to her again, it made me want to be with her more. So I can't be trying to find someone else when I'm so crazy for this girl I've been trying so hard to be with me. I just don't know what to do anymore. I don't want to be without her, but I don't know how I can get her. Anonymous poster hash: 584e0...a66
  18. I broke up with my last long term relationship boyfriend about ten months ago. I thought I was doing quite well until today when I was cleaning my room I found some old letters he wrote to me and letters I wrote to him but never gave him and this brought back difficult feelings and memories.I mean I really really believed we'd be the high school couple that stayed together.he even proposed. Maybe if his family wasn't planning on moving we would still be together. We dated for about a year and a half. I've dated since then, but it's not been....the same. Now we've both changed. He has a girlfriend who was his supposed best friend when we were dating. They've been together for like seven months and I can tell he's happy. We don't talk anymore because our break up was bad and then it got complicated then bad again. We tried being friends but that didn't work. I know he's happy and after we broke up I wasn't okay and neither was he, but now we both have gotten better. I'm over him, but sometimes I just get these flashbacks back to when we were just a couple of dumb kids. I'm ready to date again. I want to. I was wanna get those butterflies and giggles again. But I haven't met the right guy. And I don't know how to stop these feelings I get every once in a while. My mom says they probably won't stop because he was my first love. Is this true? I also found about fifty letters I had written each day after the break up which were hard to read. But I feel better after reading them in a weird way. Im tired of being single. Looks I said before I've dated since that guy and it's just not been good. Why can't guys be like the Nicholas Sparks books?
  19. I really don't know what to do anymore. I was an incredibly awkward teenager, which is why I never had a boyfriend. With about 18 I lost a lot of weight though, got a nice haircut, dressed better, etc. That's about the time I started thinking of myself as kind of pretty. I get a lot of validation from friends and family so I'm fairly confident it's not just wishful thinking. Still, I'm not the type to just walk up to men and chat them up. So up until 20 everyone told me "You seem so shy - men don't look at you because your friends are all pretty too and everyone prefers confidence." I just accepted that and tried to be more confident. Now I'm 22 and people tell me "You look so confident, men are afraid of rejection - they prefer someone shy to feel protective over." As they say, I've tried nothing and I'm all out of ideas:) No, but seriously, I get super awkward and weird when I try to talk to strange women already. You can imagine what happens when I try talking to men so I'd rather avoid that. There was that memorable occasion where I spontaneously burst into tears for no reason... Any suggestions about what I'm doing wrong? Anonymous poster hash: 3c889...175
  20. Ever since she noticed that me and my crush would look at eachother at the begining of the school year during class, she became friends with him. She looks at me a lot but never smiles .. She also has a boyfriend.. So i don't know what her deal is .. I've never done anything mean to her before..? We don't even know eachother.. We're just classmates.. Me and my crush still look at eachotherand he always blushes or looks away quickly but hen his friend notices that he looked at me, she turns to look at me or pretends to look at some beside me or behind me.. -.- But it's obvious that she's trying to look at me..And when she does look at me she has the kind of expression like "I kno you're looking at him.." But really.. why would she care..?
  21. If anyone could give me some advice, I'd really appreciate it. I started the pill three weeks ago and had sex with my boyfriend a week after. I'm now on my 7 week break from it,it's day 5 and still no period has arrived. I've had some brown discharge and cramping but not a full on period. Is this normal when starting the pill? I'm on microgynon 30. Thanks x
  22. Okay..So this is how it all started: I was prom dress shopping one day and I hadnt texted the guy who I was 'talking' to at the time all day. So i texted him and apoligzed, and told him that I was searching for a prom dress. He said it was okay, and asked which prom i was going to. i said that i was going to my schools prom. and he asked who i was going with. I said no one, by myself. and he said 'Ohh.. i might be going to your prom'. this kind of pissed me off since we were heavily talking for about 3 months at the time. i asked him who he was planning on going with.. and lets just call her (lea). He said "lea'. and this girl has absolute no contact with him. I of course asked him why whe was going with her, and he said that 'she needed someone to go with so she basically messaged me and asked me to go to her prom' Okay.. But get this. He wasnt going to tell me any of this. I was just going to show uo to MY PROM and see THE GUY I TALK TO there with another girl. and he knew i was going. but wasnt going to tell me any of this? So we hadnt talked in a decade. And then he texted me maybe..2 weeks after the fight and said 'Hey,sorry i havent texted you, Ive been super busy.' I said, "its fine." he said "you sure?" i said "yep, kinda used to it now." and that set him off. he blew up on me after i said that and that was the last time we talked. that was about 1 1/2 months ago. I miss him.. terriibly. and apparently he misses me too because of the things ive heard. I just dont know what to do. he seems sneaky and unfaihful. I just need help on what to do Anonymous poster hash: 38a78...062
  23. alright folks.. i need some advice.. sooooo heres the scoop. basically i recently got reinvolved with my first gf ever.. from 5th grade. Anyways, she has two kids with a loser who is out on parole.. i went to go pick her up, and she was kind of around him which is her ex now.. hes abusive towards her when ever she goes around him but for whatever reason wont do anything about it... Well, i go down to pick her up, and he shows up from the bar drunker than a skunk.. we dont speak and i had no intention to do so. Well, she was looking for her phone charger apparently someone took it to use it, well he said he knew where it was... told her to come with him.. then i didnt find this out tilll after the fact but he preceded to beat her up a bit, punched her in the face and then bruised a rib.. well, she also apparnetly got in a fight with some other chick her new... long story.. anyways i heard the commotion and i started up my car and rolled up a few too see if i could figure out the hell was goin on. About this time i see him dead sprinting for my car, im like ??? what the %^&*. Shes yelling for me to drive off and im just lookin at this guy.. well, he runs up and trys to open my door and im just stone face jacksonin him, and hes like open the $%$&Yin door man, and i didnt so he goes if you dont open the door im goin to punch it in. im tryin to talk to him to figure out wtf his deal is, (i didnt realzie he had beat her up at this point.. other wise i would have gotten out of the car and wiped the floor with him) well, he starts to repeadidly punch my window and im just lettin him because at this point im getting really pissed and two things are going to happen in my mind either i let him break the window or i drive off or i get out and beat the shit out of him.. well he breaks the window i drive like 25 feet away and call the cops... long story short, find out hes on parole for drug trafficking, and that if i dont drop the charges he will go to prison for 2 years for violating his parole. At first she wanted me to drop the charges on him, now she doesnt really care.. guess shes wising up.. anyways i was thinking about droping them because well its just a window.. but the fact he beats on her makes me not want to drop the charges... What should i do? ive tried to get ahold of the cops beacuse ive been thinking about droppin the charges but im not sure.. its his own fault.. just sucks that itll be me that puts him away.. either way he probably wont leave her alone, and me if we end up stayin together.. but it would pose problems if we got in a LTR because then when he gets out.. hes probably goin to want blood for facilitatin him goin back also the thing is this... ever since, i got her ex in trouble she has started telling me she loves me... she told me she loved me for a long time... and this an that. i love her too im just very skeptical.... IDK what to do!!!!!!!!!! should i just cut ties with her let her ex stay free.. or send him to jail an see if we work out.. if not then cut ties? or what.... What to do!!!!??!?!?!?!?!
  24. So my boyfriend just finished his paper and snap chatted me a picture of himself half naked (he had shorts on but no shirt) posing and flexing his six pack and everything with that stupid wavy face saying "ya boy is done👌" so I assumed that he sent this to other people too. I know he has other girls as friends on snap chat and it bothered me knowing that he could have sent that picture to those girls. It's just me being that I'm his girlfriend, I don't appreciate him sending snaps like that to other girls unless he wanted attention from them. So would it be okay for me to be half naked in my bra and shorts and send that to other guys? I'm just so angry right now. But seeing that most people would say "oh he's a guy it's only bad if he sends naked pictures not half naked thats stupid," I was wondering if me being upset and hurt is too dramatic or too much for this kind of thing?
  25. What qualities should it withhold? Benefits? How important is sex? Knowing the difference between healthy and unhealthy? Trust? ect? Im just wanting to get as much information as possible on relationships so I can help better understand. Please and thanks!! (: